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Post by Aidos on Apr 30, 2018 15:47:10 GMT
I'm currently working through Sir Guys articles on mirror time, with a specific focus on updating my wardrobe and putting forth the effort to look better for myself - which has consistently been a challenge for me. I'll post his articles and other relevant material here. Although Sir Guy does address competing with other women, I liked this thought:
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Apr 30, 2018 15:56:37 GMT
Post by Aidos on Apr 30, 2018 15:56:37 GMT
Adding onto the flower metaphor, this is one of my favorite scenes from A Little Chaos and relates to growing older with elegance.
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Apr 30, 2018 20:53:53 GMT
Post by Aidos on Apr 30, 2018 20:53:53 GMT
2615. Pretty Time
(highlights) Eliza Doolittle in My Fair Lady claims, “The difference between a lady and a flower girl is not how she behaves, but how she is treated.” If not her behavior, then her appearance must determine lady-like treatment. My late wife, Her Majesty Grace, repeated this many times: “If she dresses like a whore, she is treated like a whore.” Again, appearance touted as critical to how a woman will be treated.
Boiled down to the essence, either women pay more attention to their personal attractiveness every day, or men will continue to find them less and less adequate for mating. No man wants to be seen associating permanently with a less than attractive mate. It is not women, it is the male nature, the way they are born as competitors. Her unique virtues emanate out of her mind, heart, character, and personality. Thus, relationship development is severely curtailed by both conquest and lack of wearing attractive, complementary, and clean and well-groomed attire.
A man wants last to see his wife treated by others as a sex target. Instead, he wants her seen so attractive that his male competitors admire his having captured her, and respect him that she now belongs to him.
Thus, attractive attire and grooming and delay of conquest prolong the development of relationships until potential husbands truly appreciate her attractiveness, and it becomes enhanced by her virtues discovered accidentally while looking for ways to conquer her.
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May 1, 2018 16:33:15 GMT
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Post by myspinningarrow on May 1, 2018 16:33:15 GMT
I love that quote about the flower
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Post by Aidos on May 1, 2018 17:32:11 GMT
2123. Mirror Time — Part I: Pretty is as Pretty Does(highlights) Ladies, you are born pretty and unlike anyone else. You know it in your heart. If you fail to exploit and make the most of it, you will continually find yourself unsatisfied with your life. ‘Pretty’ is much more than your face. It’s your spirit of importance to yourself. It’s your emotions, motivations, and expectations wrapped into and confirmed by your physical appearance and emotional outlook; you please yourself and elevate your confidence. You feel you’re good and attractive enough to get your way. ‘Prettify’ is getting there. Emotions, mind, and heart work together to convince you of your importance to people around you. But you need frequent reinforcement, and that’s where the mirror comes in. A woman’s prime motivator is to be self-important, and exploiting your prettiness is the first step. All else follows that, even your self-gratitude. IOW, you’re not likely to be very important to those around you if you don’t exploit your prettiness to your satisfaction. When exploited by using your mirror-reflected image, an aura of beauty arises that outshines the physical. (Physical attractiveness doesn’t cause happiness; the world is full of so-called beautiful people who lack it.) This is a great thread. I call "pretty time" the foundation stone of WWNH. If you are introducing someone to the ideas of WWNH and they are not clicking, tell them to suspend their disbelief and just focus on pretty time every single day. All the other parts of WWNH rest on this foundation. A woman can do the pretty time routine every single day and not understand why, but she will start to see positive changes in her life simply from this habit. Also, this point is so important: ‘Pretty’ is much more than your face. It’s your spirit of importance to yourself. It’s your emotions, motivations, and expectations wrapped into and confirmed by your physical appearance and emotional outlook; you please yourself and elevate your confidence.
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May 3, 2018 0:48:34 GMT
Post by Aidos on May 3, 2018 0:48:34 GMT
2124. Mirror Time — Part II: Vanity Saves(highlights) Every woman’s head has features she dislikes. Vanity is the answer. Females thrive on the feminine internal and external aura that vanity produces, and the profound effect it has for standardizing the behavior of males of all ages. It starts for you at the mirror and should begin as the first thing in the morning.
As seen daily in public, many modern women ignore or forget these facts of life. Men are visual creatures by nature and appreciate looking at women. But masculine interest goes deeper than skin and sex. Men pay most attention to the physically attractive, because they are attracted most to sex. But they marry and stay married to the prettiest woman that matches their interest.
Your vanity is the root of keeping your man or husband focused on you. When he sees the prettiness enhanced every day of who he escorts or married, it helps keep his heart pounding for life with you or at home instead of something or somebody else. Look around you. Modern women tend to let themselves go in appearance, which reflects poorly on both them and their husbands. One wonders, how long does the marital bloom last if your vanity remains forbidden by feminist thought and your resulting appearance reflects poorly on him and you? (You may not care what others think, but your man cares what he thinks of you.)
Vanity reminds you that you’re special and demonstrates to men that you are more unique than other women, capable of greater attractiveness, and pleasant to be around or have nearby. Once that qualification is established, you are immensely welcome among one or many men for other than sex and enabled to succeed in life according to individual taste for associating. Beneath a cloak of vanity generated with abundant mirror time, you can stress and guard your natural modesty, which is the most effective trait that you have to keep male dominance under control. Vanity charms men; they like to see the results. Modesty disarms men; they can’t quite grasp the reasoning behind it. (How well your man respects you can be partially measured by how well he respects your insistence on being modest, which of course begs the question, are you modest enough? Do you have and adhere to standards? That is what earns his respect?) The buildup of physical appearance and shaping of your attitude before a mirror supports and enhances your feminine spirit. It reinforces that you’re attractive, unique, and important to both yourself and others. You’re prepared to take on the world and whatever it may present to you. As with all of us, your strength comes from what you create and sustain inside and by yourself. The more uniquely feminine your appearance, and especially ladylike, the more pronounced an aura surrounds you of non-sexual desirability and pleasant association. The more unconquerable you appear subliminally, the more attractive you appear subconsciously as marital candidate. An aura of prettiness promotes your importance and captures manly attention among men with marriage on the mind and induces marital thoughts in men not yet aware they too would like a good marriage. The more uniquely feminine your aura, the less men see you as a sex object.
Modern women don’t spend enough morning time before the mirror, and it produces five undesirable effects. 1) Modesty fades under male pressure. 2) Self-image morphs toward weakness in both influence and self-defense. 3) Desperate desire to attract a man pushes them toward becoming a sex object. 4) Self-confidence doesn’t arise to assertively resist rather than wilt beneath social pressures. 5) Reduced sense of self-worth convinces them they deserve no better than whatever they receive. Every natural difference between the sexes should be exploited by and to the full advantage of females. Your natural gift of vanity should be appreciated, used, and enjoyed daily. Prettiness enhanced before the mirror after arising in the morning also empowers you with modesty and enables you to identify and ‘capture’ many more things you seek in life. In that way, modesty and vanity are silent asset partners that are more influential for long time relationships than sexual assets.
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Post by Cinnamon on May 3, 2018 11:06:36 GMT
Great thread. I call mirror time the foundation stone of WWNH; everything else turns on it.
Moreover, a woman can cultivate the habit of mirror time without having to understand any of the other parts of WWNH (all of which, unlike mirror time, take time and study to comprehend and master) but will still start to see positive changes in her life almost immediately.
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Post by Aidos on May 3, 2018 23:54:16 GMT
2125. Mirror Time — Part III: The First Lady(highlights) The actions and attitudes of you catering to your prettiness governs your surroundings in an indirect manner. It pleases both sexes. Associating with men motivates you to embellish your female strength—to show your prettiness—which shapes your attitude positively and enables satisfying relationships to form. Such indirect expressions of femininity both help tame the male beast and enable productive relationships to form. The prettier you are, the more respect and less liable to be mistreated; it’s the male nature before conquest. To paraphrase an old axiom, the woman that magnifies her prettiness is the woman that rocks her world. To do that, you first magnify your own importance to yourself. You do it best when seated in front of a mirror absent the pressure of having to move on to something else. A bonus is attached; the importance you generate with your reflected image resonates with spouse, family, friends, dates, associates, and even enemies.
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Post by anonymouswife on May 8, 2018 19:42:54 GMT
I have a 4 year old daughter and everytime I have my hair down or wear a dress she says "Mommy you are so pretty!". She also ALWAYS tells me that she is pretty. I think it is that innocence of I think I am pretty so I am that I wish I could recover
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Post by anonymouswife on May 10, 2018 21:06:54 GMT
1146. Pretty Is As Pretty Does at the Mirror: Whole Article! I bolded certain things..."Her Highness Princess Rita at post 1143 inquired about women making themselves pretty for themselves or to attract or please others. I responded there and expand here. People presume that society rewards good looks. They judge, for example, by only seeing slim, blonde, blue eyed trophies luck out where others fail. The presumption is wrong, however, and it leads many women to lose faith in their natural strengths, deviate from their best interests, and often become phonies. Society rewards success and likeability for making others feel good about themselves. It condemns failure, phoniness, and whatever else takes away from people feeling good about themselves. Consequently, prettiness merely adds mayo to society’s sandwiches.Even an ugly woman can be successful and likeable, if she first builds success at the morning mirror and likes herself as a dynamic aka successful female. Even trophies fail when phoniness within exposes a woman’s self-centeredness to others. Now, I pose and answer these questions: What makes a woman pretty? Her looks or how others perceive her? The answer is simple: Neither. Women know a lot about what makes them prettier, but much of it is wrong. So, I offer reasons below to help squeeze out wrong impressions. She’s born pretty, so daily prettiness arrives when the mirror satisfies her for having done enough. If she hasn’t seen a mirror for a whole day, can she convince herself that she remains pretty? How about two days without a mirror? She knows she’s pretty, but she just can’t be all that she expects to be. And so she acts as though she’s not pretty enough. Self-confidence flutters. Men conquer women and are satisfied. Women are quite different. They are satisfied ONLY when they look as good as they expect to look at any given moment. The woman that starts the day unsatisfied with her appearance starts an unhappy day. To reverse that, she satisfies herself by prettifying herself to her own satisfaction. The day brightens immediately. To prettify herself to please others pushes her into unknown territory. She imagines or assumes how she will impact them. It pushes her to prettify herself for unseen and unpredictable targets. Each day she looks for confirmation of her expectations, and absence of it causes dissatisfaction in her day.
Trying to shine herself up for others also weakens her sincerity. Phoniness flows from it. Who knows how far she must go and where it will end if other people continually fail to meet her expectations? They leave her dissatisfied, so what’s she to do? Women are born convinced of their prettiness, but they do need daily and routine tune-ups. A pleasant day starts for every woman when she satisfies herself that she looks pretty. After much practice and continual adjustments to stay up with whatever improves her appearance, she learns to satisfy herself easily. It opens the door to a pleasant life."
My thoughts... "Even an ugly woman can be successful and likeable, if she first builds success at the morning mirror and likes herself as a dynamic aka successful female. Even trophies fail when phoniness within exposes a woman’s self-centeredness to others." Sir Guy makes it sound like being pretty is a choice, not just physical attributes. She is in charge of her success and likeability. "To prettify herself to please others pushes her into unknown territory. She imagines or assumes how she will impact them. It pushes her to prettify herself for unseen and unpredictable targets. Each day she looks for confirmation of her expectations, and absence of it causes dissatisfaction in her day." This is a big struggle for me. Everytime I groom and do my makeup etc and don't get a compliment, I feel NOT pretty. I feel almost like the grooming isn't worth it and it is true- it causes dissatisfaction in my day. The goal for us women is to be satisfied with ourselves...so bringing dissatisfaction is counterproductive and lowers confidence.
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